Giving honest and sincere appreciation is the topic of one of Dale Carnegie’s chapters in his book How To Win Friends & Influence People. Most everyone desires appreciation for the things they do. Without appreciation people are sometimes discouraged and fail to continue on. Not only does appreciation make the person feel welcome, it also makes them feel wanted. When someone has sacrificed their time, money, or energy on your behalf, true appreciation is due to that person. However, it must be remembered that insincere appreciation is worse than no appreciation. In fact, Carnegie said in his book “Remember, we all crave appreciation and recognition, and will do almost anything to get it.” He goes on to say something very important. “But nobody wants insincerity. Nobody wants flattery. Let me repeat: The principles taught in this book will work only when they come from the heart. I am not advocating a bag of tricks. I am talking about a new way of life.” This new way of life, being honest and sincere, is very hard to implement. However, the benefits truly outweigh any trouble.
It is hard to make a plan on implementing this, but I have come up with a couple of things. One thing I could try would be to make a minimum requirement of truthful and honest complements that I ought to give out every day. I could then write down in a notepad every time I give appreciation to someone. Also, I would try to remember to be honest and not flatter others. I should remember that flattery is a form of lying, and no one likes to be lied to. It is difficult to say exactly how I could achieve this goal of giving sincere appreciation, except through remembering it and constantly striving to do it.